A World of Leather and Power
This blog is dedicated to exploring gay bdsm, kink, and leather from an ethical perspective. 18+ only. Do not follow it if you are not at least 18 years old. Any reference to ‘boys’ should be understood as gay slang for men at least 18 years of age. Sex with minors is illegal and immoral and this blog does not in any way condone it. Similarly, consent is the bedrock of bdsm; all activity described herein is assumed to occur between consenting adults, even if they are referred to as ‘slaves’. This blog promotes Ethical BDSM at all times. You can find more of my writings at gaybdsmfiction.blog, the home of Leather-Bound Press. You can purchase my bdsm fiction at Amazon.com. Look for the author Hadrian Temple. You can follow me on Twitter @hadriantemple. For those who wish to tribute, you can find my Amazon Wish List at https://www.amazon.com/hz/wishlist/ls/2742G0USDY73O?ref_=wl_share (look under "Hadrian Temple"). Or use Cash app--$hadriantemple. All gifts will receive an appropriate response. If you’re in the Milwaukee-Chicago area, drop me a line! (especially if you’re in the athletic to muscular range...) Cashfags also very welcome.
Asia Argento, Jimmy Bennett and Why We Don't Believe Male Survivors
My first partner was raped as a young boy. My first slave was raped when was about 20. In both cases, their rapes cast a long dark shadow across their adult lives. Both of them struggled with addiction. My partner was unable to be honest and open with people and couldn't build deep trusting relationships, while my slave was so weighted down with pain that he couldn’t cope in healthy ways and instead resorted to drinking and gambling. This is why I place such a high emphasis on consent. Truly non-consensual sex tears deep jagged holes in people’s psyches, leaving wounds that rarely heal on their own. BDSM gives some rape survivors an opportunity to heal in some measure, to confront their suffering, by allowing them to consent or withdraw consent as they need. Physical pain can bring emotional pain to the surface where it can be dealt with through catharsis. The vulnerability that BDSM creates can enable bonding between dom and sub and show a rape victim how to trust and be open. These things enable them to speak their truth in ways that others can hear. (Note that I say 'can'. None of this is automatic and bdsm is no substitute for therapy with a trained professional.) But when a dom fails in his duty to do no true harm by violating a sub’s consent, he perverts these tools of healing into weapons that wound not just the sub’s body but his soul. To me, that is truly evil. I’ve done rape scenes. I get why people find the power of such play arousing. I understand why so much online porn performs non-consent for its audience. But we need to remind people that consent matters. For a sub, it’s a matter of life and (spiritual) death. Never cross that bright line. And when someone, dom or sub, tells you their story, listen to them and believe them. When a rape survivor speaks, it’s an act of courage and trust. Disbelieving them furthers the pain and injury of their rape.